Hey, all. We've been having some issues with Kato lately, and I'd like some advice, if anyone has any....
A little bit of background, because I haven't really had any major issues with Kato until this happened... On the fifth of July, I lost my father unexpectedly. Since then, I've been spending every day at my mom and dad's house to be with my family during this time. I usually bring Kato with me, so he can play with my parents dog (155 pound pure bred black lab). He absolutely loves hanging out with Bosco... they are best friends.
There have been a few times when I haven't brought Kato with me, mainly because I have been going to job interviews before I go to my parents (I've been trying to find a new job). When I got back home, I found that Kato had torn at a corner of the wall, tearing off a layer of the wall and the trim. I started crating him after that, but every time he is in his crate when we go out, he urinates and rolls and jumps around in it, kicks the bottom of the cage out, and rips up the blanket if we put one over the top of the crate.
My boyfriend and I have very different ideas as to how we should treat this behavior. I don't think that physically punishing animals does any good, especially since we don't know when exactly he did it. He could have done the destructive behavior minutes after we walked out the door, so punishing him hours later is pointless to me. Plus, I don't like the idea of putting my hands on my pets in a mean way. A smack on the nose for nipping is one thing, but I'm not one to beat my pets for bad behavior. I believe in other ways.
I am at a loss, though. Maybe Kato is feeling the stress of losing my Dad, like we are. I also thought that maybe he is used to being with Kato every day now, considering I've been there every day since it happened. I even had him there on the fourth, when we were having a cook out. So every day for the past 24 days, he has been with me, and not alone. Maybe he is having some anxiety when he is left alone?
Sorry for rambling, I guess I just don't know what to think about anything anymore. There's a lot going on, and I don't understand most of it.