Thank you all for your advice. Things just fell in to place, I still sleep on the sofa with her, but Im happy and she is too I made her a new bed which she loves, toilet training is down to the odd accident.......but most of all, someone said to me, how could I doubt myself when she so obviously sees me as her leader, she does everything I say, (when I dont nagg......which was what I was doing on this guys advice!!!-see 1st posting-NOT quote above-I agree with everything becs put!!!)....and looks to me for direction. I think I have it sorted now as she is bright as a button and picks it all up so quickly. I was having a bad day thanks to listening too much to advice and having little faith in myself. That is a key Ive learnt....have faith in yourself....you know your dog better than anyone and the advice you get has to be tailored.
I thank everyone on here as their advice is brilliant,and mostly everyone fills you with confidence.....so thanks guys!!!! xx