Saffmonster Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Why is my life full of unreliable people/friends!!! Today I was supposed to go shopping and lunch with a friend. We had already rescheduled from last week as she supposedly 'forgot'. No she didn't forget, she just couldn't be bothered getting out of bed... she's a BAD liar!! :angry: And to contradict herself, she also told me that she thought I didn't want to go because I didn't text her the day before to confirm... It's lunch, not a bloody flight to Spain!!!!!!! Her excuse today was that her garage called to change her MOT from tomorrow to today... No they didn't, she alreay told me they booked her car in tomorrow, I use the same garage and they never change appointments unless you ask them to. She just couldn't be bothered getting out of bed!!! :angry: And to top off my week, I was suppose to be meeting another friend tomorrow for lunch. He just text me to say that he has a meeting he forgot about... ARRRGGHHH!!!! My whole 3 days off work ruined because of UNRELIABLE PEOPLE!!!!!!! :angry: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TanyaE Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 That sounds really annoying! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
madmally Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 ohhhh how annoying. try and keep busy doing other things. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chewbacca_&_me Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 I totally know the feeling. I have ended up with several people like this friend of yours in my life in the last few years. I can say that, "they come and go" eventually we just kind of have to wait out the storm for a bit. After about 5 years of doing nothing but being kind despite whatever issues theyve had... that if it begins to hurt yah and you tell them, and then nothing changes...theyre not worth having. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TanyaE Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 That sounds really annoying! Sorry I've just re-read what I wrote and realised that 'annoying' is probably the understatement of the year. I'd like to put something really profound and sage-like about how to deal with this sort of thing whilst maintaining a higher zen-like attitude throughout but I'll be honest....I'm trying to think and there's just nothing coming! I think I need some sleep! LOL Seriously though I can imagine thats really frustrating especially when you only had a few days holiday. Still hopefully you had spare time to spend with the dogs instead eh?! Depending on how sensitive your friends are I'd be inclined to mention that it upset you, but not in say a particularly argumentative way. Perhaps next time you talk just casually get into the conversation like 'Oh it was such a shame we didn't end up meeting for lunch, I was really looking forward to it. That kind of threw me all out of sync and didn't end up doing productive at all which is annoying etc.' so maybe if they are even slightly listening they will realise and at least apologise without you actually having to request an apology?! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
valhalla Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Dani why dont you tell them both that you have won dinner for two in a posh restraunt and to meet you there at 8 o clock,, and then dont turn up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffmonster Posted November 10, 2010 Author Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Perhaps next time you talk just casually get into the conversation like 'Oh it was such a shame we didn't end up meeting for lunch, I was really looking forward to it. That kind of threw me all out of sync and didn't end up doing productive at all which is annoying etc.' so maybe if they are even slightly listening they will realise and at least apologise without you actually having to request an apology?! I'm actually not sure why I even bother with her. She's very self centered and me saying something like that would go right over her head. So, it's not even worth the effort of saying something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TanyaE Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Dani why dont you tell them both that you have won dinner for two in a posh restraunt and to meet you there at 8 o clock,, and then dont turn up Ha ha love that idea. Much better than mine! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffmonster Posted November 10, 2010 Author Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Dani why dont you tell them both that you have won dinner for two in a posh restraunt and to meet you there at 8 o clock,, and then dont turn up Not a bad idea!! :lol: Although, I would have to tell the first friend 7.30 as she is ALWAYS late!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TanyaE Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 I'm actually not sure why I even bother with her. She's very self centered and me saying something like that would go right over her head. So, it's not even worth the effort of saying something. Oh thats not good. In that case DEFINITELY go with Valhalla's idea! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BingBlaze n Skyla Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 omg grrr agree with dave tho lol tell them that and they dont turn up - or go but hide n watch them lol see how they like it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Removed #2 Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Why is my life full of unreliable people/friends!!! Today I was supposed to go shopping and lunch with a friend. We had already rescheduled from last week as she supposedly 'forgot'. No she didn't forget, she just couldn't be bothered getting out of bed... she's a BAD liar!! :angry: And to contradict herself, she also told me that she thought I didn't want to go because I didn't text her the day before to confirm... It's lunch, not a bloody flight to Spain!!!!!!! Her excuse today was that her garage called to change her MOT from tomorrow to today... No they didn't, she alreay told me they booked her car in tomorrow, I use the same garage and they never change appointments unless you ask them to. She just couldn't be bothered getting out of bed!!! :angry: And to top off my week, I was suppose to be meeting another friend tomorrow for lunch. He just text me to say that he has a meeting he forgot about... ARRRGGHHH!!!! My whole 3 days off work ruined because of UNRELIABLE PEOPLE!!!!!!! :angry: Friends and family may disappoint you every time, but your dog is always happy to see you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffmonster Posted November 10, 2010 Author Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Friends and family may disappoint you every time, but your dog is always happy to see you! That's SO true!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
proximity Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 I just stop inviting them out to anything, ever. You drift apart and never see them again, but invest the energy in other people who don't siaaapoint you. Funny how you still always hear from them when they want something though! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tanya maggs Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 come for a dog walk with me if you like gotta be at kidz school till just after 11am for rememberance day but am free after that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HuskyCouture Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 ughh i hate people like that, met enough of them, make plans with them next time, hopefully they don't cancel, and then you don't show up! don't even call should teach em Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffmonster Posted November 10, 2010 Author Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Aw thanks Tanya My brother has taken pity on me though. I'm meeting him for lunch in town Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa (Fragglebabe) Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Oh Dani, some people are not worth bothering with hugs to you hun & the idea of arranging to meet & not turning up is great xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 ohhh i'd deffo arrange to meet and then not turn up and when they ask why just say oh sorry, i was washing my hair Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahNukka&Shadow Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Aww Dani thats poo! Sorry your friends are thoughtless! Get some new ones! Glad you've got a nice brother tho to meet up! I was gunna surgest taking the dog somewhere new.. always cheers me up to take mine out, like Nanci said dogs are always pleased to see you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andy Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Awww poor, Dani. Never mind. . . deep breaths and then lots of Alcohol. . . :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dygosamikita Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Some people just aren't worth the bother Dani.......next time they call wanting something just tell them you are too busy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Miss Bump Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 sod em dani-i have had friends like this all my life-and i tell you what as soon as you sack them off they'll come running and just leave them to it-stick with the friends that treat you as you'd want to be treated and realise that life is too short to bother with people like that-it is something that i've only just recently learnt but you know what it doesn't matter how many friends you have, it's the QUALITY of the friend that counts xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Val (Zebedee) Posted November 10, 2010 Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Dani, you have said it in a roundabout way - that girl is not a friend - friends don't do that to each other. Just a shame it's had an impact on your few days off work and I hope your other friend does have a meeting he forgot or he'd be getting the cold shoulder treatment too :angry: Make up for it tomorrow & have a good few hours with your brother ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffmonster Posted November 10, 2010 Author Report Share Posted November 10, 2010 Yes, she's deffinately not one of my 'good quality' friends and I don't know why I keep bothering with her. As I said earlier on, she very self centered, probably doesn't even realise that she's peed mee off. The second friend I do beleive had a meeting. I've known him forever and he's really forgetful (not good when you are a uni lecturer ). Oh well, I know my little brother wont let me down. Or if he does he's in BIG trouble Thanks guys, I'm glad I've got you as friends xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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