Elmo Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 Got a random friend request from someone with 16 mutual friends, so I messaged them... ME: Who are you? HER: I know beth and Karen. Used to be part of SHWA ME: But you dont know me? You haven't actually spoken to me in any way shape or form since this message? HER: Nope Just a fellow husky owner ME: No offence love but if I dont know you, never spoken to you, I dont add you, simple as. HER: No need to be rude love. I was just trying to be friendly. Hmmmm, so you just randomly sending a request to someone you have never spoken to, never seen or heard of on a husky forum and expect to be blindly added just cos you own the same breed as me. It just a little bit too weird to others as well? In this day and age of social networks, do people like yourselves on here just add people for the sake of it? I don't like adding people unless I have at least spoken to them or know them through here or Sibespace, and again if I have interacted with them. No surprise I've blocked the silly mare.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BingBlaze n Skyla Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 ive got quite a FEW friends i dont know on my fb (need to have a cull really) but there was no need for her to call u rude - its up to you who u add or dont add Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistyrayn Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 erm yeh loads of people add others just cos got same breed .. i had over a 1000 friends and it got out of hand so deleted most .now i only accept if known.. or HO members or runn their dogs ..so there is chance i may meet them at a rally one day in UK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lebe03 Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 I don't add Friends unless I know who they are otherwise they're not friends they're Strangers and why would I add them as a stranger even if that was an option. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffmonster Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 No, you were right to refuse. It's your decision. Saffi has a FB page and people think I'm Saffi and add her instead of me, so luckily I don't many requests from stangers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueWolf Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 I'm the same. To be honest, the whole "friending" think needs to be called different because it means anything except a friend. On Hyves (Dutch Facebook wannabe) I have 28 people added as a friend. I've met all of them. However some of them are having more than 400 friends :eek: You can't know so many people! The whole number of amount of friends is completely meaningless to me. Maybe it's a show-off? "Look how many I have!" Or are some people just very obsessed with Pokémon? "Gotta catch them all!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elmo Posted May 15, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 At the end of the day if I dont know them I dont add them, simple as. I half expceted her to be a Little Dropper, so messaged her to confirm. I get FRs from those that play the same games as me, but they get denied straight off. I have got gamers on my friend list but they are those I speak to, even some are my 'adoptees' from a particular game that I was assigned to help start up in the game. I don't like getting FRs from absolute strangers, especially those that think I'm rude for the sake of asking who the hell they are! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffmonster Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 I just tried to look for you and I can't even find you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elmo Posted May 15, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 Maybe it's a show-off? "Look how many I have!" Or are some people just very obsessed with Pokémon? "Gotta catch them all!" Yeah there are some like that for sure. I've seen some in their thousands, you can't surely know that many people! I have approx 330 friends, from work, HO, school, uni, BTBs, developers and old time gamers that joined particular games from the very beginning with me... That is a lot for me and only tend to add the odd person maybe once a fortnight if they appear on friend suggestions and I do truely know them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elmo Posted May 15, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 I just tried to look for you and I can't even find you My FB privacy settings are as high as they can be. I think you can only find me if you have a certain amount of mutual friends with me, and even then it will be hard to find me... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boshka Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 ' No offence love but if I dont know you, never spoken to you, I dont add you, simple as' It just depends how you interpret it, she may have thought you were being curt. A lot of people add people they dont know! Maybe it a competition lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elmo Posted May 15, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 Saff, I can find you easily..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saffmonster Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 lol, that's because you know my name from little drops :bananalama: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
<3Jess<3 Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 lol i wanted to add all the other droppers on fb so i could get to know u all better but didnt wanna cause havnt spoken to all of them =s Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoseWillow&Dexter Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 before i joined husky owners i only had people i knew in real life (even if i havent spoken to them in years...im slowly deleting them all) if i was to delete everyone except the people i reguarly see it would only be about 30 I've got about 10 husky owners members on facebook, only people that i know and talk on here though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lurchybold Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 I have no private info on FB so I don't mind strangers as friends as no info can really be gleaned from my FB, rarely post on there only to answer someone so doesn't really bother me. Would be different if I actually used FB as it's supposed to be used Andy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Staceybob Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 ME: No offence love but if I dont know you, never spoken to you, I dont add you, simple as. Hmmm... To be honest I'm kind of on her side. It's alright not wanting to add someone on facebook but rather than going with the "No Offence love" (because I don't know about anyone else but I find it very patronising if someone calls me "love") you could have just bluntly said "I'm sorry but I don't know you and I only add friends I know in real life". They could have been adding you hoping that they would have the opporunity to get to know you and be your friend so that's probably why they considered you being a bit rude. Stacey xxx EDIT: I have lots of H-O people on my facebook and loads of random Husky Owners too. They just add me and I just accept because it's the opportunity to make new friends. Though the other day it was really funny because someone posted on my wall "I love you" and Robyn thought it was someone that I had been talking to and I had to explain that I'd never even spoken to them lol! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoseWillow&Dexter Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 I have lots of H-O people on my facebook and loads of random Husky Owners too. They just add me and I just accept because it's the opportunity to make new friends. Though the other day it was really funny because someone posted on my wall "I love you" and Robyn thought it was someone that I had been talking to and I had to explain that I'd never even spoken to them lol! LOL awkward...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Staceybob Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 LOL awkward...... Tell me about it! It took me ages to explain that I had only spoken to the person like... once if that! Robyn was like "well why are they posting that then???" and I was like "I have no idea!!!" Stacey xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elmo Posted May 16, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 I don't find it patronising being called love, I thought I was blunt enough and simple enough to understand as it was. Mind you if she thought that message was rude she would have needed to bleach her eyes with some of the statuses I can make! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Staceybob Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 Lol oh dear. Well I hope I helped you see it from more sort of her percpective anyway. Stacey xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deeppurple Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 I used to be on a site called inked nation, i met my now partner on there and my best friend, but only threough accepting invites from total strangers,....and i am glad i did ....but on fb i only have people i actually know and family apart from nix and simon who i have as friends on here,...but i think its up to the individual i mean i see it like this if after a while of accepting a stranger on my friends list i then dont like them then i remove them but maybe they might be great and i have made a new friend , ....but its not rude to say no, sorry i dont add people i dont know, thats fine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahNukka&Shadow Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 If I send a FR to someone I dont know or even that I havnt spoken to in an age I always send a message with it explaining who I am, its just polite! I dont know why more people dont do that it seems a little strange to just randomly friend someone without even a hello first! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dunc Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 Got more friends request on FB than friends lol cant be with it, it was set up for family to get pictures off I think the best course is just to ignore requests you don't want to add Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aMartyrsHeart Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 I don't add people that I dont know. period. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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