Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Ragghhhhhhhh So annoyed right now! I was bathing Dave last night and the window cleaner turned up so marc shouted up if he could get money out of my purse - yeah sure there's a £10 note in there He pays, gets the change and puts it back in my purse, later on i check my purse and see bits and bobs and a £2 coin. Today at work i go in my purse to get £2.50 out for my dinner and the £2 has vanished! My purse fastens really well but i checked my bag anyway but nothing in there - rang Marc, nope he's not been back in my purse.....conclusion, stepdaughter has taken it AGAIN. It's not the first time by a long shot, that this has happened. What ticks me off is that if she wants money for school all she has to do is ask!!!!!!!!!!!!! She's 15 and not sure what to say to her when i get home - she has been told about this before - it's not the value, it's the principle that she has gone into my bag / purse without asking and taken something that doesn't belong to her. She doesn't smoke, drugs etc yes i know - how can i be sure, trust me, i know. hang on :chillpill: that's better think i might need more of these. thanks for listening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mydiamond Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 I sometimes take money from my parents' wallets without asking, but only because I am instructed to do so. Could it be that she's in such a hurry she forgot to tell you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 no - she is never allowed in my bag or purse If she wants / needs money she asks and i get it for her just stings that shes done it again when all she had to do was ask x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleLuka Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 bummer. that's one thing i never did as a kid. just be blunt with her. let her know it's not cool. you've warned her before and now she will have to face the consequences for doing it again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 what are the consequences though? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Val (Zebedee) Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Clean the dogs poop for a month, limited or no internet access (remove her phone) for a period of time; it has to be something that will leave it's mark with her so it has to mean something to her Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 oh i've got something - no lap top over 6 weeks holidays ( she breaks up on Tuesday) Harsh - but maybe now she will learn to stop taking things that do not belong to her - already had to put a lock on my bedroom door to stop her going through my stuff Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storm Angel n Auroras Mum Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 no - she is never allowed in my bag or purse If she wants / needs money she asks and i get it for her just stings that shes done it again when all she had to do was ask x I did do this. When i smoked all that mattered was to get my fags. I even stole from my little brother. My brother stole from our little.sisters piggy.bank. Make her do chores to earn the money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storm Angel n Auroras Mum Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 oh i've got something - no lap top over 6 weeks holidays ( she breaks up on Tuesday) Harsh - but maybe now she will learn to stop taking things that do not belong to her - already had to put a lock on my bedroom door to stop her going through my stuff Wow 6 weeks. You will have stroppy teen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 she does do chores to earn money - but if she needs a bit extra she knows she can just ask Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Removed #3 Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 oh i've got something - no lap top over 6 weeks holidays ( she breaks up on Tuesday) Harsh - but maybe now she will learn to stop taking things that do not belong to her - already had to put a lock on my bedroom door to stop her going through my stuff i had the same thing with my son i put locks on the bedroom door aswel ps another thing you can try is a big stick lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Wow 6 weeks. You will have stroppy teen. might make her realize not to do it again though lol it was that or get the police to have a word with her to worry her a bit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleLuka Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 ps another thing you can try is a big stick lol :rofl: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleLuka Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 6 weeks isn't too harsh of a punishment. She needs something that will make her seriously realize not to do it again. i think it's a good idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 big stick isn't a bad idea! i think i might get arrested though lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 ohhh i'm going to be hated and be an evil stepmother! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Removed #3 Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 big stick isn't a bad idea! i think i might get arrested though lol well a smaller stick then lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Lmao!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Povodny Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Oh Sarah, totally feel for you on this subject. I have one similar. It's not as easy as it appears Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Austinville Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 (edited) Set an 'hourly wage' for which she must do chores to repay the money she took. For example, 'pay' her 1 GBP per hour for tasks that she is not normally required to do. So, if she took 3 GBP, then she owes you three hours of work. I would search for the things she likes least to do.......picking up poo, grooming the huskies, etc. (Three hours of picking up poo is a loooooooooonnnnnnnngggg time!) Or so much time off the computer/phone etc for each GBP she took. 1 week computer loss for each pound........ That way, when she complains about the punishment, you can turn it back on her - her punishment fits her 'crime'. If she doesn't like the fine, don't do the crime. I found that this was the simplest way to discipline my kids because their actions determined the punishment. And if they knew what the punishment would be before hand and still did it, then it was truely their decision, knowing that they would lose certain priviledges for a specific period of time. They sorted themselves out quite quickly....of course, we lived in the country so they would have to mow the huge yard with a push mower or scoop the hog house or weed the garden or their very least favorite - picking up rocks from the pasture and yard. Edited July 13, 2012 by Austinville Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleLuka Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Set an 'hourly wage' for which she must do chores to repay the money she took. For example, 'pay' her 1 GBP per hour for tasks that she is not normally required to do. So, if she took 3 GBP, then she owes you three hours of work. I would search for the things she likes least to do.......picking up poo, grooming the huskies, etc. (Three hours of picking up poo is a loooooooooonnnnnnnngggg time!) Or so much time off the computer/phone etc for each GBP she took. 1 week computer loss for each pound........ That way, when she complains about the punishment, you can turn it back on her - her punishment fits her 'crime'. If she doesn't like the fine, don't do the crime. I found that this was the simplest way to discipline my kids because their actions determined the punishment. And if they knew what the punishment would be before hand and still did it, then it was truely their decision, knowing that they would lose certain priviledges for a specific period of time. They sorted themselves out quite quickly....of course, we lived in the country so they would have to mow the huge yard with a push mower or scoop the hog house or weed the garden or their very least favorite - picking up rocks from the pasture and yard. thats actually a really good idea!! my mom made me pull weeds when i got in trouble. lol or rake grass. WHO RAKES GRASS? ugh worst punishments ever Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luna's Mum Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 [MENTION=25]sarah t[/MENTION]ake her laptop without asking! Then when she goes to use it she might realise how irritating it is for someone to take something without their knowledge! And a six week break might be a very good lesson but be prepared for the fallout!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah Posted July 13, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Becky that's a great idea thank you x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joshmp5 Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Personally, I am a huge fan of this saying..."Random beatings will occur until moral, and honesty increases." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Austinville Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 LOL [MENTION=7241]joshmp5[/MENTION] Goodness, can certainly tell your from my neck of the woods! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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