Chula Posted July 28, 2014 Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 How do you decide when to make a big change in your life? I am considering applying for a job in Michigan. I am perfectly qualified for the position. I don't think the OH would go with me. But it's a good opportunity, and things haven't exactly been perfect between us. I am not sure how we would work out the Chula issue, but if I can't keep her with me, then I wouldn't go. I won't leave her for anything. I am both nervous and excited about the possibility. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emma Posted July 28, 2014 Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 I guess you just have to close your eyes, take a deep breath, steady yourself and then take a giant leap of faith. I may drink too much wine but I'm still a sensitive soul, lol, and i've noticed a while back that you don't sound particularly happy with the way things are right now, maybe this is your chance to make a fresh start? you'll never know if you don't fill out the application. We're kinda in the same boat here although it's A bit different. Hubby lived out in Canada with his family for a year or two in his teenager years and now he wants us all to apply to move over there. This would be amazing, I admit. But i'm a southern english girl through and through. As much as I like the idea, at the same time it terrifies me to leave behind everything that I've ever known. Maybe I should start to practice what I preach, lol. Good luck whatever path you follow Emily. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robke Posted July 28, 2014 Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 Having taken the plunge a numerous times I can only say.... Just do it... you might otherwise regret it for the rest of your life... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jay Posted July 28, 2014 Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 Well, what I would do is sit down and write the pros and cons of taking the new position, or staying where you are at. Obviously a pro would to be be closer to me It's a tough decision, but you have to think of everything. If it is a great opportunity and the OH would not move with you, then you would have to decide if it is worth passing up, especially if you are not happy with your relationship. I understand about Chula though,because I would not be able to leave any of mine either. But if you were to pass it up you might regret it later. I say apply for the job and go from there. The real decision would not come until you are offered the job Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chula Posted July 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 True, I haven't exactly been offered a job yet! I just am so positive that I could get it if I did apply. Being closer to Jay and the boys would be #1 in the pro column! Plus Liv! The job is actually in Lansing. I have a good friend outside of Detroit, which isn't exactly close, but not too far either. And it's much closer to my family in Minnesota. I am not really happy with the current situation, and I think it's because we are just very different people with very different priorities. It's easy to stay together because starting over is hard! Especially when you are an old biddy like I am. I would feel really badly taking Chula from him though. For both of them. She does adore him, but he doesn't have time to take care of her. I am getting my resume in order. I supposed I lose nothing by applying, except a shot to the self esteem if I didn't even get a call for an interview! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jay Posted July 28, 2014 Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 Yeah, apply and see what happens! Is it in the same line of work you are doing now? And here is a thought...you should get him a new dog if you do leave...like a lab that he can have off leash It's really hard when you are at different places in your life and different likes, priorities, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chula Posted July 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 Yeah, same line. Pretty much the exact same job just in the legislature instead of the executive branch. I looked at the agency's website and even all the vernacular they use is the same as we use. It would be an opportunity to get back into the political side of things and not so much the operational side I am doing now. I prefer the political stuff to the monkey typing numbers on a keyboard. It's more fun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jay Posted July 28, 2014 Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 Plus the politics are almost as nutty in Michigan as they are in Virginia!! Yeah, same line. Pretty much the exact same job just in the legislature instead of the executive branch. I looked at the agency's website and even all the vernacular they use is the same as we use. It would be an opportunity to get back into the political side of things and not so much the operational side I am doing now. I prefer the political stuff to the monkey typing numbers on a keyboard. It's more fun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goingsolo Posted July 28, 2014 Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 If you don't try you won't know xxx good luck if you decide to apply. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormy Posted July 28, 2014 Report Share Posted July 28, 2014 No harm in trying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mydiamond Posted July 29, 2014 Report Share Posted July 29, 2014 I wish you the very best of luck! Excited to have you in Lansing! EEK! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bambi92 Posted July 29, 2014 Report Share Posted July 29, 2014 Good luck with which ever you choose you won't know unless you try xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paisley&chad Posted July 30, 2014 Report Share Posted July 30, 2014 good luck! I hope you get the job, if only for a self esteem boost! but if you move, that's awesome too! maybe a play mate for Chula would be in order to cheer her up if she has to leave hehe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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